Roles in a Relationship: Nag-aalaga o Inaalagaan
I honestly think I put in more effort but I'm not sure if the other party will agree. But that's not the point of this post. I just want to know whether people do really take roles in a relationship. I have always thought that there is always one party who is naturally the one who takes care of the other and one party who is taken care of.
Yeah, yeah... I know, I know... both have to take care of each other but I think there are people who naturally do the taking care of, like it's their nature to nurture and others who likes being cared for. I hope you know what you mean.
I'm just wondering which one are you?
Are you even aware which role you take?
I am pretty sure I do the "taking care of" in my relationship. Even in my family, I am the youngest but I end up taking most of the responsibility and that's fine. I love them and I will do anything for them.
But, I am starting to think it's not something I want in my relationship. Maybe because my "role" in the family drains me out already. For once, I want to be the one that sits back and does the supporting. I don't want to be in charged and I don't want to be the one who constantly think about how he feels and what else I can do for him.
I am not saying I don't want to take care of the guy, ever. Of course, I will. I just don't think I want to do it to him more than he does to me. It has to be equal at best but I am honestly not willing to put in more work than the guy would.
I'm pretty "low maintenance" but I am a typical girl. I like being asked what I want and I want the guy to do things for the sole purpose of making me happy. I want him to go out of his way to just to make sure I'm comfortable. I like having the guy drop by my work just to bring me coffee because he knows I like it. I like the volume of the car stereo turned down so he can let me sleep because he just knows I'm tired from work. I like having him ask his friends and my friends to look after me when he can't be with us.
And I want to feel that he doesn't mind having to go out of his way just to make sure I'm safe, I'm comfortable and I'm taken care of in the small and big things even though he knows I am perfect capable of taking care of myself.