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Things a Matandang Dalaga Should Have

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Don't let your years go to waste. Whether you are single by choice or by circumstance, you need to make something of your life, you need to achieve something, be something and fulfill some of the dreams you have set out for yourself.

Below are the things you should ALREADY HAVE when you reach 30.
A Cause to Support Some will argue that they are already helping their relatives, maybe putting a niece or sister to school or helping in relative's hospitalization or whatever, and that is no less great but you should also think about other people who may not have relatives like you, not even in the 5th degree. You should also think about things that may not necessarily be a matter of life or death but is impotant to you like the arts or research to get cure for some very rare disease.

10 Things You should Never Do for a Man. Click here. 

I am putting a child to school through World Vision. It's not much because I don't have enough but I have a soft spot for children. If I h…

She Takes Pride in Making Men Cry

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She said she never had a boyfriend. She's almost 30.

She said it's by choice.

She said she's dated men but nothing serious.

She said there has never been anyone that has made her fall in love... but many have fallen in love with her.

She said she's makes men cry and it's she feels empowered because so many men make women cry.

I don't understand why at 30, she still doesn't know that hurting anyone isn't something you should be proud off.

I don't wish her the pain but I hope she will soon realize that nobody deserves to feel pain and nobody has the right to inflict it.

Do you know what hurts the most when you are cheated on? Click here.

I know because I've been hurt and let me tell you, it made me feel like a piece of sh!t. It hurts being abandoned and rejected. It hurts knowing that the person you love didn't just not love you back but hurt you.

Minimum Tolerance

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When you reach your 30s, make something of yourself, achieve some sort of independence and remain single, you really start to develop a higher level of impatience.

You start looking back at the choices you made in your 20s and you could actually shudder at how stupid you were.

I know I do.

I don't know how I lasted more than five years in a relationship with a guy who had no dreams. I constantly had to drive him to think about his future. I literally made his resume and looked for a job for him. I had to tell him to save (he didn't) and help his family in some way.

I don't know how stayed friends with a pathological liar, leach from a swamp, backstabber and hypocrite.

I don't know why I lasted more than six months with a boss who constantly took credit for my work.

I don't know how I lasted a year with a guy who wouldn't call for weeks and constantly compared me to his ex.

Do you like "bad boys"? and do you even know why?

It may be because I was also…

Stop Explaining. Stop Convincing Other People

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They won't understand why you are still single.

Especially those who already found someone they want to spend the rest of their life with. After all, we are all social species. We are not designed to be alone. Even the most introverted person, still longs for companionship at times.

If I had a nickel for every time I get asked why I am still single...

There was a time I tried to explain why.

There was a time when held back the truth and just told them what I could bear for them to know. I told them I wanted to first finish my first movie. When that was over, I told them I wanted to finish my first novel.

After all, how could I tell them I was in a relationship with a man I didn't love and see no future with and was just keeping him because I was scared to find no one else.

There was a time when I twisted the truth. I told them he cheated or that I was planning on moving to the U.S. and he didn't want to.

After all, how could I tell them my boyfriend cancelled our wedding …

My Crazy Family

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Of all the people I know, I don't know anyone with a family as weird as mine. Some families have one or a couple crazy family members who have been to jail or has 4 wives or has many tattoos but I have never seen a family that has almost all kinds of characters.

Click here and read about my cousin who decided to reconcile with her husband who didn't tell her he was already married before he married her.

I have mentioned how weird my family members are but I don't think I have really enumerated the characters in my clan. Let's see:

more than 10 people in my family have been addicted to drugs and those aren't just in my generation, that also includes one or two of my unclesat least two are child abusersone male cousin refused to be with a woman that is singlea drug pusher (nope not a drug lord, just your regular small time neighborhood friendly drug pusher)several murderers

10 Questions of a Matandang Dalaga

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No matter how badass and cool I try to be about being a matandang dalaga, there are still those d@mn moments when things creep on me. This thousands of years of tradition that dictates a woman should be married and bear a child could still pound strong enough to break the walls I've have worked so hard my entire life to build.

It's not easy to admit either. After all, I have pride.

Doubts and questions still get into my head. I try to push them away as hard as I could. It doesn't help me to dwell on them but I realize that denial is never a solution to anything. I am obviously scared of these questions or the possible answers to them. I know because I have come to realize that I tend to ignore things I am scared of and I don't like being scared. As Nerd Stark said, it is only when you scared can you be brave. If I am crazy enough to have these thoughts, I might as well be crazy enough to say it loud. Maybe dwelling with these questions a bit longer will

Time to confro…

Making the Most Out of What You Have

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We went 1500 feet but it was a good work out and it also made me realize just how out of shape I am. Need to do something about that.

One of the things I've learned to do whenever I hike is to appreciate the beauty of what surrounds me. Nature is beautiful especially in its purest form. There is something about the abundance of green that can magically transform you into a new dimension of you. It's just incredibly peaceful and really the closest thing you will ever get to heaven on Earth.

What I noticed, however, is just how more beautiful the mountains in the Philippines is than the mountain in the U.S. It's the same thing with beaches, U.S. doesn't even come close. The reason I have come to love hiking is the beauty that Philippine mountains reward me with beauty I never thought is possible on Earth. Nature has just a different way of creating beauty, man can never measure up to it. A single sweep of nature's airbrush and it produces roses of different colors an…