Stop Explaining. Stop Convincing Other People

They won't understand why you are still single.

Especially those who already found someone they want to spend the rest of their life with. After all, we are all social species. We are not designed to be alone. Even the most introverted person, still longs for companionship at times.

If I had a nickel for every time I get asked why I am still single...

There was a time I tried to explain why.

There was a time when held back the truth and just told them what I could bear for them to know. I told them I wanted to first finish my first movie. When that was over, I told them I wanted to finish my first novel.

After all, how could I tell them I was in a relationship with a man I didn't love and see no future with and was just keeping him because I was scared to find no one else.

There was a time when I twisted the truth. I told them he cheated or that I was planning on moving to the U.S. and he didn't want to.

After all, how could I tell them my boyfriend cancelled our wedding and didn't even bother telling me?

My ex broke our engagement but didn't have the b@ll$ to tell me. Click here.

There was a time I ignored the discussion and the truth. I buried myself with work and let my achievements build a shield around me.

After all, how could I tell them even I don't know the answer?


There was a time when I was slowly figuring things out and I wanted to convince everyone I was doing fine.

After all, I really was doing fine. I got into that place where I realized that I have no more patience for bull$h!t... where I realized there is much more to experience and I have the resources, opportunity and time to do it and sulking about being single just won't help me one bit... where I realized being single is not the worst thing in the world, neither should it be bad and that it is way better than being beaten up or cheated on or being burdened by someone not even related to you... where I realized I have control over my future.

But they won't understand it or they won't believe it or they won't accept it and it's a complete waste of time if you keep on trying.

After all, you have no responsibility to explain your life to them or the decisions you make. Part of the privilege of being a matandang dalaga is the right to be a beeotch. You can all tell them to eff off, verbally or mentally.

Things we all NEED to learn but were never taught in school. 

Just as long as you know you are fine. You won't be fine some of the time. There are times when you will see something or watch something or feel something and you will suddenly some silly form of sadness and that's fine.

You'll bounce back. As long as you continue to pursue your passion or do something worthwhile or do something you know you won't forgive yourself if you stop doing, you'll be fine.

They won't stop asking question. and they won't stop wondering about it. Accept that fact. Also know that whenever they see you, they'll wonder what's wrong with you or what tragic thing happened to you or pity you.

So it's useless to explain yourself or convince them that you are fine.

Just stop and live your life.

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