Words of Wisdom: Wait

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Several pounds ago, I was having coffee with a dear friend. Let’s call him Berto. Berto is an extremely intelligent and sensitive person. I respect him a lot. I was 19 at that time, a fresh graduate and full hopes. I was also starting to wonder why I have never had a boyfriend.

We went into a discussion on how I got to 19 without having had a relationship. I went on and on and on and he never really said anything until asked him what are his thoughts about the whole thing. 

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He said something like this:



I don’t know. I don’t know how accurate your story is. You are feeling insecure right now which is affecting how you really view the whole thing. But there is something I need to tell you.

You are so eager to have a relationship that you are most likely going to fall head over heels in love with the first guy that will come along. It’s going turn your world upside down and it will feel good. It doesn’t matter who the guy is. That is what will happen. 

So, I would like to suggest something. Wait. When you are about to make some life altering decision, wait. If you feel like you want to marry him, wait. Wait a year or two or three. If you feel like you want to live with him, wait. If you feel like doing anything for him that will affect your life in more ways than one. Wait.

Time has this amazing capability to give you some clarity. Time allows things to fall in its right place. Time controls emotions and emotions are unreliable. Emotions are romantic but this world isn’t.

So, wait. Let time do its job and I promise you, your life will turn out better.


I have pretty much allowed my stupidity to take over my life BUT waiting is the one thing I have been wise enough to do.

I decided to wait before I make some of the most important decisions in my life. While I saw my cousins get married one by one, I decided to wait. When I saw my friends get the first job that comes, I decided to wait. 

When I was so pissed at someone and want to scream and kill, I decided to wait. When I want to spill a secret to someone I trust, I decided to wait.

And here I am. Single at 34 BUT at least I have never been separated, annulled or divorced. At least I haven’t added to the problems of other people. At least I have been able to help some of my friends and relatives.

At least.

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