Romantic Movies for 30 and Single Women

We all know how movies can screw our idea of love and relationships. Those running after a girl while she is just about to board the plane or that speech a guy will deliver enumerating your cute quirks and romantic music playing in the background while he is undressing you… absolute bullshit. It won’t happen. But there are also a few movies that portray love that’s a little closer to reality. You might have to dig a little deeper but there are some.

500 days of summer

The movie starts out by saying it’s not a love story. It is but an incredibly mature one. I know, it seems like it is not especially because it seems that Summer took Tom for a ride only to drop him in the end. However, there is one important detail that everyone seems to miss out. Summer has always been clear about how she felt for Tom. It was Tom who wasn’t able to leave up to his end of the deal and fell in love with her.

And that’s lesson # 1

Many guys (and girls) are clear on where they stand when it comes to relationship but many insist on hoping they will be able to change that. When someone says he is not looking for a relationship, you either accept that or walk away.

Love, Actually

There are two stories here that demonstrate how 30 and single women should behave when it comes to love. The story of Juliet (Kiera Knightley), Peter (Chiwetel Ejiofor) and Peter’s bestfriend, Mark (Andrew Lincoln. By the end of their storyline, we learn that Mark was actually in love with Juliet but kept it to himself because Peter is his bestfriend.

It was unfortunate that Juliet found out. Instead of pursuing her, Mark admitted his feelings and then walked away. Most often, it’s the walking away that people can’t do and that’s what puts us into trouble. That’s how affairs begin. That’s how heartaches begin. That’s how friendships and reputations are destroyed.

Lesson #2: 

Learn when and how to walk away.

Karen (Emma Thompson) learns that her husband, Harry (Alan Rickman) bought a gift for another woman. Instead of the usual screaming and shouting, Karen held it in and chose to ask Harry if it was just sex or sex and love much later in the day, after all their Christmas celebration.

She stepped back and analysed what’s in front of her. They have children and she doesn’t know what the gift meant.

Lesson #3: 

Step back and think. Often, what screws us up is our own wild imagination. If you allow reason to settle in, you are most likely to say the right thing and make the right decision.

In the Mood for Love

Chow Mo-wan (Tony Leung) and Su Li-zhen (Maggie Cheung) learn that their spouses are having an affair with each other. They started a friendship based on the heartache which soon developed into a romantic attraction.

However, they refuse to act on it as they feel they will stoop down to the level of their spouses if they start an affair. The attraction was undeniable and they, in fact, admitted it. However, they chose to walk away instead of destroying each other’s self-respect.

Lesson #4: 

Nothing is worth your self respect. 


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