First Date Tips for Single Women in their 30s
If you are working, it will advisable to meet during your coffee break or lunch. That way, if you don't like how the date is going, you can bail easily because you have to go back to work. If you like how the date is going, then you can set a proper date or exchange numbers.
Go for coffee or snack
One of the best ways to get to know someone's character is to know his attitude about work, his interests and hobbies. You'll know if he is the guy with ambition, honest, principled, the way he treats other people, the way he views other people, etc.
Talk about work and hobbies
At the same time, it's not too intimate and not too personal. You'll be able to gauge if he is the kind of guy you would at least want to get to know enough for a next date.
It's also a good time to know whether he is the kind of guy that would share your interest, do the things you like such as traveling or whatever it is you are into.
Don't put yourself out there... too much
One of the reason you are still single is that, somehow, you put yourself out there more than the guys you go out with. Don't be so interested to be blatantly obvious that you like him. It's okay to let him know you like him but don't be desperate. Remember, you still have the upper hand at this stage. Let him chase you and make him realize your value. As cliche as it may seem, the harder you work for something, the more valuable that thing becomes.
You can initiate the flirting but you have to wait for him to respond before you continue on flirting. If he doesn't respond, stop. But it would be better if he makes the first move.
Know what you want out of this date and stick with it
Are you at that point in your life when you are already looking for a permanent relationship? Are you looking for "fun"? If you are looking for a relationship and he doesn't seem to be the kind of guy you expected to be with or doesn't pass your standard, then let go. Don't hope he will change or don't lower your standard just because he doesn't want the same things you want. You're in your 30s, come on.
He could be hot but hot is not all there is too it
You might end up liking him a lot but he might turn out to be the exact opposite of what you want. Know that it is a possibility and embrace if it happens.
Don't put your best foot forward
What are you, 12?
if he walks you back to your office or your car
These are good signs:
if he asks just as many questions about you as you do about him
he treats waiters and others people with "lower status" well
if opens the door for you and pull your chair
Lastly, remember that you are 30
You have achieved a lot and you should know your value by now. If the guy you are having a date with turns out to be a douche, let go. You're better off alone than be with someone who will burden you eventually.